Letting Go and Pruning Out
Dear Readers,
We know that you are going through it. You just lost the love of your life, who was the person you thought would never betray you or even leave. For some of you, you just came to the understanding that your so-called friend, is not a friend at all…. and had malicious intentions all along. Whatever the scenario might be, one truth remains for each of you. This person is no longer adding light to your life, and you are having to accept the hard truth that it is time to let them go.
Wait… stay with us! We know that the last sentence was eye opening, and might have hurt a bit, but we wouldn’t be the Burr-Lesque Journal if we weren't telling you the truth. So allow us to help you navigate through this time, through understanding, and reasoning.
Let’s face it, letting go sucks..
Letting go of people is never, ever truly easy. Even for those of us who claim to “not need anyone,” the truth is we are all human. This means that we are all hard-wired to want company and people in our lives to bond with, build with, and grow. This is what keeps our world spinning on its axis, because we depend on our relationships to carry us through the different seasons in our lives… and what happens after a while? We build attachments to these relationships. We only say this because we don't want you to feel alienated in your feelings. So yes, letting go IS NOT supposed to be simple, but sometimes it is necessary.
If you are reading this, it means that things have shifted in that relationship, to a point where you don’t know what to do. While you might want to stick it out, and not do what needs to be done, understand this – Inaction is an action. Not making certain shifts in your relationships will only keep you where you are, which is stuck. How can you grow, dear reader, if you have weeds in your garden? How is your hair going to grow long, thick, and healthy if you don’t clip off your dead ends? So without doubt, a decision must be made, especially if you are feeling like you are losing parts of yourself.
Dear Readers, you have two clear choices:
1. Let go of that relationship
This relationship is burdening you in a way where you have done everything you can, but that person is starting to hold you down. The weight of this relationship is taking away from you instead of adding. You don't wish this person any ill will, but it is imperative that you go your separate ways.
2. Depending on the nature of the bond, find a way to work through it
You might feel as though this relationship is worth saving, and the extent of what is taking place isn't a “deal-breaker” for you. Be careful choosing this option, as the relationship, friends of lovers, will take active work on both parts.
Remember who you are
In the end, remember that no matter which option you choose, to treat that person with dignity and love. As hard as this might be for some, understanding that parting ways does not equal parting from who you are as a person. If you are one to love (which all of our readers are), still show that person that your live and light continues to radiate, with or without them.
